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Sunday, December 30, 2007

OUT With the Old, In With The New-Happy New Year

I'm not the least bit bashful about this: I really don't enjoy "the holiday season." It simply puts me in a bad mood. At least in my part of the world, "the holidays" now seem to start around the time the kids go back to school, and they end about the time the kids go back to school! What's to like? It's dark and cold. The weather and lack of sunlight slow me down and make me want to stay in bed and hibernate until "the holidays" are over. And, please don't hate me if you love the sounds of the season, but there are more than just a few Christmas songs I really can't stand. "Winter Wonderland" and "The Little Drummer Boy" are two of my least fave tunes in the world, and apparently they're the ones that banks, restaurants, stores, the media, and even the house that sings down the road, love the most.

This year I managed to take a few weeks off and unplug from my computer long enough to rest right before that last holiday "push" and before my mother in law arrived to stay in my apartment. I am not going to comment on the visit, or the family celebration that has left me with a three-day headache.

Ok, I know I'm a Scrooge, but be honest--what adult really likes the holiday push--those frantic, two weeks before Christmas? Everyone is irritated by the long lines at stores, lack of cash and sleep, too many obligations, and perhaps, too many Christmas carols, plus family interaction that doesn't always work out joyfully. I think I read somewhere that the holiday season is the most popular time for suicides, and I know for a fact it is the most popular time to fire people from their jobs.

This is the last day before New Years' eve. I am rushing to put this up before my guests arrive for New Years. I'm feeling a bit happier and more optimistic now, especially since I am nearing the end of a disappointing 2007. I am spending New Years' eve with my husband and two good friends, and we will drink good champagne and eat lobsters, so I'm pretty much assured a happy evening. To be assured for a happy 2008 with lots of possibilities I know I have got my work cut out for me. Meanwhile, I want to wish all my readers around the world a happy and satisfying new year. And, I hope you'll keep checking out the advice sisters web site, blog, and bulletin boards. Let me know what your new years' resolutions are?

Out with the old, in with the new!

happy new year!

Alison

Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Solo this year? No need to Fear it--read the article

The two of you were planning the holidays together, but now there has been a change of plans.

Everyone seems to have something to do except for you.

You can't get home to family and friends, and worse, you're working and away on a business trip!

You've pushed your credit too far this year to justify that ticket that brings you closer to family and friends.

If you find yourself solo this holiday season, there is no reason to feel left out, or sit at home! Here are some ideas from THE ADVICE SISTERS® to make the holiday joyful, solo or not! READ THE ARTICLE: http://www.advicesisters.net/WitWisdom/Handlingholidays.html

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Monday, December 24, 2007

Thank you to AdviceSisters readers around the globe

The Advice Sisters have several stat trackers on this site, but we have not had one consistently this year. However, I thought you might find it interesting to know that since May 2007 the Advice Sisters have received visitors that have translated our site into more than 47 languages from the following countries:

United States
Canada
United Kingdom
Australia
India
Philippines
China
Germany
Ireland
France
Malaysia
Senegal
Singapore
Egypt
South Africa
Brazil
Italy
Sweden
Mexico
Netherlands
Hong Kong
Japan
Thailand
Poland
Israel
New Zealand
South Korea
Turkey
Spain
Belgium
Greece
Ivory Coast
Romania
Russia
Norway
Puerto Rico
Saudi Arabia
Finland
Argentina
Indonesia
Pakistan
Denmark
Nigeria
Bahrain
Hungary
Serbia and Montenegro
Vietnam
Taiwan
Kuwait
Austria
Slovakia
Switzerland
Nepal
Trinidad and Tobago
Bulgaria
Estonia
Lithuania
Latvia
Qatar
Venezuela
Ukraine
Cyprus
Czech Republic
Moldova
Macedonia
Iran
Armenia
Luxembourg
Morocco
Uganda
Cameroon
Chile
Ecuador
Georgia
Costa Rica
United Arab Emirates
Portugal
Guam
Ghana
Namibia
Algeria
Malta
Croatia
Peru
Iraq
Zimbabwe
Yemen
Lebanon
Kenya
Colombia
KazakhstanS
aint Vincent and the Grenadines
Falkland Islands
Botswana
Bangladesh
Guyana
Jordan
Palestinian Territory
Tunisia
Uruguay
Greenland
Libya
Brunei
Seychelles
Bosnia and Herzegovina
Mongolia
Bahamas
Angola
Saint Kitts and Nevis
Iceland
Nicaragua
Dominican Republic
Barbados

Thanks to everyone who took the time to visit from around the globe. I hope you will come back often and tell others about the Advice Sisters Web site and AdviceSisters Blog. Happy 2008!

ALISON

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Dealing With Holiday Left-Overs

If you're entertaining over the hoildays, the chances are that you will buy a "little extra" so you won't run out, but afterwards, the chances are that you’ll have some leftovers. If you have a small family and/or a small fridge, finding room in your home (not to mention your stomach) for the leftover meats, vegetables and bread can be a challenge.

I thought you might find some of these ways to reinvent leftover dishes of use!

French Toast - Leftover French bread and banana or pumpkin bread make delicious French toast the next morning. Top with fresh fruit (you might even have some leftovers!) and whipped cream. To make a fruit topping, warm fruit and juice on the stove. Thicken with equal parts water and cornstarch (mix them separately and then add them in).

Leftover vegetables - Vegetable Quiche
Fill an empty pie shell with finely chopped vegetable leftovers and shredded cheese. If you have leftover ham, you can add it in too. Beat 3 eggs, 1 cup evaporated skim milk, and a dash of Lawry’s Seasoned Salt and Seasoned Pepper. Pour the mixture over the vegetables and bake for approximately 30 minutes at 350 degrees, or until the filling sets.

Vegetable Soup - To save time, open a can of canned vegetable soup add leftover vegetables and beef broth or tomato juice for a hearty winter lunch. Serve with grilled cheese sandwiches (if you have leftover cheese from a party platter, this is a great way to use the leftovers).

Leftover Turkey - Turkey Wraps
Slice or shred leftover turkey, add some teriyaki sauce. Wrap mixture in soft tortillas and serve for a refreshing post-holiday lunch or snack.

Stuffed Pitas - Stuff a pita pocket with leftover turkey and cheese. Add salad greens, sliced tomatoes, and mustard or mayonnaise.

Leftover Deli Meat and Cheese - Leftovers from meat and cheese trays can be turned into prepared salads for sandwiches. Simply chop the meat finely and prepare as you would any other salad mixture recipe like chicken or tuna salad. Or, shred deli meats brown lightly in a frying pan. Toss with barbecue sauce and cook until mixture is thick and serve on leftover rolls.

Leftover Mashed potatoes -Don't ditch them! Instead, shape leftover mashed potatoes into patties and fry in butter, olive oil or vegetable oil for quick and easy potato cakes. Add seasonings to the potatoes (rosemary is a nice holiday choice) before shaping them.

Leftover Gravy - Add leftover turkey drippings or gravy to leftover stuffing and bake at 350 degrees for about 25 minutes.

Leftover cranberry sauce, pumpkin pie and other holiday goodies - Canned cranberry sauce tastes wonderful on leftover cooked candied yams. Pour cranberry sauce on the yams, place in a 350-degree oven and cook until heated through. You can also use yams in place of carrots or zucchini in muffins or bread. If you’re tired of eating plain pumpkin pie, chop it into pieces and put on top of vanilla ice cream.

Leftover crackers can be used as toppings for casseroles or baked hot dish. You can also use them as breading for meats .

Leftover cheese can be used as toppings for soups. For example, chunks of leftover cheese are delicious in most chili.

Leftover Food Safety Tips : The Federal Safety and Inspection Services department of the USDA provide these recommendations for safe leftovers:

Wash hands well with soap and warm water before handling leftovers.
Refrigerate leftovers immediately--within two hours of preparation.
Cool hot leftovers in the refrigerator instead of on the counter.
Remove stuffing from inside the turkey and store in a separate container.
Pour leftover gravy into a plastic storage container (dividing up into smaller
containers if necessary).

Storing leftovers - Discard any turkey, stuffing and gravy left out at room temperature longer than two hours and one hour in temperatures higher than 90 degrees.

Divide leftovers into smaller portions. Refrigerate or freeze in covered shallow containers for quicker cooling.

Keep leftovers at least 2 inches apart in the fridge to allow cold air to circulate.

Toss any stuffing containing meat after three days. Throw out any leftovers that look or smell odd (contaminated food may look and smell fine).

If freezing leftovers, use within two to six months for best quality.

When storing leftovers in the refrigerator, mark the date and use within a few days:
Vegetables … 3-4 days
Pasta … 3-4 days
Rice … 7 days
Deli meats … 5 days
Beef, poultry, pork, and fish … 3-4 days
Gravy … 1-2 days
Stuffing … 1-2 days
Seafood … 2 days
Soups, stews, and casseroles … 3-4 days
Wrap leftover roasts and turkey tightly in aluminum foil or plastic wrap and eat within 3-4 days.
Reheating leftovers - Cooked turkey may be eaten cold or reheated. Oven reheating:
Set oven temperature to at least 325 degrees. Reheat turkey to an internal temperature of 165 degrees. Use a food thermometer to verify it’s reached the right temperature. To keep the turkey from drying out, add a little broth or water and keep covered.

Microwave reheating: Cover food and rotate for even heating. Cooking times will vary according to power levels. It also depends on the amount of leftovers. Keep an eye on your food to ensure that it’s cooked thoroughly.

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Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Reem Acra's Ravashing Gowns- Fall 2008 Preview

During SPRING 2007 Fashion Week, Reem Acra offered a stunning collection of mostly special event dresses that would be the envy of any woman. The designer? The very talented Reem Acra. The theme of Spring's collection was"Old Hollywood glam rags, with a "young, modern twist." And, as a surprise finale, the designer came out to talk her bow, and set her tiny, fluffy, white dog onto the runway!



The first week in February marks the FALL 2008 Fashion Week in NYC (and I'll be there, of course) even thought we haven't made it through Winter or Spring yet, but today I battled the throngs of holiday tourists on Fifth Avenue (and a parade of horse carts), to take a first look at the Reem Acra Fall collection.

Festive music played (I picked out a jazzy version of "Sweet Georgia Brown"), as members of the press took photos and walked around the room, taking photos of models, the gowns, and of Reem Acra herself (here she is next to one of her opulent, purple gowns). She was dressed head to toe in black, with a generous helping of glittery necklaces adding a festive touch. Of course anything Reem Acra designs will add a "festive touch!"

As with the Spring collection, the emphasis is on the waist, with few sleeves in sight. Ladies, start toning up nows Even though the waistlines are defined, however, the graceful, flowing skirts are kind to wide hips, helping the wearer to look elegant and "willowy." There was lots of draping, beading, and wrapped bodices. Many of the gowns were in classic black, but there was also "modern" black -- a super-deep version of another color. One I liked is "Blue Night." It looks black, but it's actually, blackened blue. Here, a model ("Karen") is wearing a silk satin strapless gown with embroidered bodice and mermaid skirt in "Blue Night." It's less harsh on Karen's delicate complexion. Other colors in the collection included red, gold metallic, grey,chocolate, jewel green, purples, and an impressive dark teal.

There wasn't a single gown in the collection I personally wouldn't die to own, such as this gorgeous tulle embroidered gown in gold (actually, it was a soft brown) that reminds me of something actress Kate Winslet might have worn in "Titanic;" the the silk chiffon hand-draped bodice with off-shoulder cap sleeve, soft cowl back and embroidered bodice detail in jewel purple that would make all those workouts and diets, worthwhile; or this amazing gold-topped gown. As with the Spring 2007 collection, there were plenty of silky and flowing fabrics in chiffon, satin, taffeta and tulle. Details on special occasion gowns are important, and Reem Acra knows how to please. Details to note in this collection run the gamut from simple to simply decadent. For example:

intricate roses and embroidery. Crystals in delicate patterns that shimmer whenever you move, An empire-style beaded top with a richly encrusted beaded design



My favorite dress in this Fall 2008 collection is the showstopper above, a silk organza embroidered gown in nude black. It reminds me of a dress my (original) Barbie had, called "Solo in the Spotlight." I always thought the doll-sized creation was the stuff of pure fantasy until I saw the dress in this photo. Suddenly what was only a little girl's dream was realized as a woman's object of desire, right in front of my eyes! I can just imagine Jennifer Lopez or Mariah Carey in this gown, can't you?

When you are wearing a unique designer gown, it is the focus. Your hair and makeup need to complement it. Here is model "Simone," in a "Jewel Purple" silk chiffon hand-draped bodice with off-shoulder cap sleeve, soft cowl back and embroidered bodice detail. Her sleek, low ponytail uses her own hair an ornament/wrap. The hair was created by Tasha Jetter for the John Barrett Salon at Bergdorf Goodman. This is a look you can re-create for your own holiday soirees. The makeup was simple and fresh, without deep color, but just enough rose on the lips to make things interesting and romantic, created by James Boehmer for NARS.

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Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Great Gift Idea--Products That "Give Back"

Give the Gift of Hope This Holiday
Looking for a beautiful gift and a way to support women? Get gorgeous jewelry at great prices, and help support women everywhere. All you Purchase items from the L'Oreal Paris Color of Hope” Jewelry Collection!

There are plenty of glittery gift options to consider for the holidays, but before you simply go out and buy "bling," consider purchasing jewelry from this special “Color of Hope” Jewelry Collection. The photo really doesn't do the items justice...they are amazing in person! What the AdviceSisters love about these (besides the reasonable prices) is that these items are a great way to show your support with a visible symbol that you (and your lucky recipient) are helping to support the fight against Ovarian cancer, the most deadly of women’s cancers. L’Oréal Paris is donating 100% of all net profits ($5.00 for each sterling silver item and $150.00 for the diamond bracelet) from the Color of Hope jewelry collection to the Ovarian Cancer Research Fund (OCRF)

Aside from the charitable aspects of purchasing the Color of Hope items (reason enough to buy them) all the pieces are impressive--beautiful, high quality, sophisticated, and distinctive. They feature an “O" in pave cubic zirconia set on sterling silver chains. For the big spender, there's a gold and diamond bracelet too $795 with 1 carat of diamonds, the same given to 2005 Academy Award Nominees including Natalie Portman, Cate Blanchett, and Hilary Swank, who have championed the fight against ovarian cancer.

The "O" can be viewed as a circle representing life, endurance, love or a symbol for ovarian cancer. The prices are incredible affordable: the signature sterling silver Color of Hope Bracelet ($24.95 retail), the sterling silver Pavé Pendant with Chain ($24.95 retail) and sterling silver Pavé Earrings ($29.95 retail). I love the "O" pendant on the slim, silver chain, but the bracelet is a true find as it comes in three lengths (7", 7.3" and 8") so there is one to fit nearly every woman on the planet! Get a few for gifts and one to add that "little something" to your little black dress this holiday season. You'll let others know you are fashion savvy and doing good unto others. By the way, the items come beautifully boxed in midnight blue velvet presentation cases, making them even more impressive and a great value.

The Ovarian Cancer Research Fund (OCRF) is the leading independent, non-profit organization in the United States dedicated to advancing research, raising awareness and finding a cure. Ovarian cancer takes the lives of over 15,000 women in the United States each year, with over 22,000 new cases being diagnosed annually. There is currently no method of early detection, leading to late diagnosis in 75 percent of all cases. OCRF is committed to funding the best and the brightest of scientific investigators whose work focuses on new tools for detection, prevention, and better treatment options. To date, the OCRF has funded 112 researchers at 41 leading cancer institutes nationwide. For more information, please visit http://www.ocrf.org/.

L’Oreal Paris is dedicated to women around the world and the company has been inspired to give back and make a difference in their lives. In 1997, L’Oreal Paris made a long-term commitment to The Ovarian Cancer Research Fund (OCRF), which continues to build. To date, L’Oreal Paris has helped raise over $13 million dollars on behalf of OCRF with fundraising efforts such as the L’Oréal Legends Gala and L’Oréal’s annual “Color of Hope” bracelet and cosmetic collection.

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Thursday, December 06, 2007

The Beauty (over 40) Cougar!

Today I received a book in the mail to review for the AdviceSisters Enews (subscribe at: http://www.advicesisters.net/thankyou.html). The book is: "The Best Kept Secrets of the Real Cougar Woman--How Old Did You Say You Are?" by Linda Franklin. I had asked for a copy because I've heard the term "cougar" cropping up more and more in conversations and in the media. This book was more about how to look sexy and young when gravity and age are beginning to take it's toll, but I began to wonder...what's all the fuss about the term "cougar?"


The definition of a cougar, until recently, was just: "A large, solid fawn-colored cat that resembles a short-legged maneless lion. Called also puma, mountain lion, Panthera concolor (syn. Felis concolor). "

But the media likes to make analogies, and in today's world there's another definition for this ferocious animal. It's a negative term for an older woman who dates younger men. The term "cougar" in conjunction with social life leads one to believe these older women who date younger men are aggressive (like the cougar) and are "attacking" the youngsters like they are "prey" to satisfy their lustful urges.
What confuses me is why men, who have traditionally made connections to young women--sometimes 3 and 4 decades younger aren't called cougars or at least the old-fashioned concept of a lecher. Men who date girls young enough to be their daughters are simply called: "Lucky."


Why isn't it the same for women?

Celebrities have invited scandal and interest by dating younger men. Just look at Demi Moore, Madonna, Elizabeth Taylor and Joan Collins. But what about the average woman? Is she somehow a predatory, sexually frustrated "animal" whose lusts can only be satisfied by hot, young, impressionable flesh? One of the studies I saw quoted--the online dating service parship.co.uk recently revealed that 280,000 British women over 45 want to date younger men, which is an increase of over 20% in just one year. These women can date men their own age, but often, they find these men lacking both in spirit and in body. The men their own age are often divorced, deathly afraid of commitment, and/or they are seeking substitute mommies for their children, wish to have a family (or another family) before they get too old, or are seeking someone to take care of their personal needs, but not necessarily to be an equal or a cherised mate. These men expect their women to do their laundry, cook their dinner, remember their medication, and carry their luggage when the go on vacation. And in return? Perhaps these willing women will thank science for Viagra and be grateful for a companion-fare ticket to Mexico or the Caribbean???


Typically then, a cougar woman is over 40 and doesn't have to "settle" for a mate who thinks his partner is lucky to have him because she is over the hill (and so who would really want her except for him?). Cougar women do not have to have lots of money, but they are generally attractive, intelligent, independent financially, and she knows what she wants and goes out to get it.

From where I sit, I can't think of any reason why these women should be ridiculed or sensationalized. What's wrong with wanting someone who is excited to be with you and who can carry his own luggage and doesn't need to be reminded of his medications because he is healthy and doesn't have to take any?

I have known my own husband more than 20 years now and he is a decade younger than I am. We were friends first and for a long time. When we met, I had just separated from my first (and quite crazy) first husband. I was attracted to my future husband's mental state (healthy), enthusiasm (all directed towards me) and his excitement about the future. I did date men my own age as well, but so many were either bitter and wounded from divorce, or they were self-absorbed much of the time, or (as I said before) they were unabashedly seeking substitute mommies for their children, wanted more children, or required a nurse/mother to help them deal with daily life. I really didn't want to be in a relationship with someone who had these issues. By contrast, my younger man was just happy just to spend time with me, and age had much less to do with my choice than general compatibility. And yes, he also did his own laundry and cooked dinner. I taught him about music, art, fashion, food and wine, sailing, and luxurious travel destinations. It was a great deal. It was mutually beneficial, not predatory. And, twenty years later, we still are happy together. I would resent being labelled a cougar!

Baby boomers are getting older and looking for love for the first time, or for the second or third time. Many of these over 40 women are not going to settle for just anybody. If they choose younger men, even much younger men, it is nobody's business but their own. We should applaud them, not slap a label on them that makes it seem as though they are doing something wrong.

I think cougars, both the animal variety and the human variety, are strong and beautiful!

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